ADHD and Marriage Blog

ADHD and Marriage: Using "Action and Reaction" to Turn Your Relationship Around

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/29/2008.

There are a number of posts in our forum from non-ADD spouses who would like to blame their ADD spouses for the troubles in their marriages.  I personally think “blame” should be considered a 4-letter word that is banned from all marriages.  The fact of the matter is that we are all responsible for the state of our relationships.  Or, to paraphrase Newton’s laws of motion, “for every action, there is a reaction”.

ADHD Marriages: The Power of AND

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/19/2008.

I was just reading a post in the forum area from a woman sharing her experiences with how much using the word AND has improved her life with her sons and husband.  I thought it was an interesting and positive idea that more would like to read about, so I link to it here.  

ADD and Marriage: Controlling Your Spouse's Life

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/18/2008.

When one partner has ADHD, it can be tempting for the other partner to micromanage their behavior. However, it is much easier to look at your own behavior than to try and "fix" someone else.

Why Your Husband's ADD is Different from Your Child's

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/14/2008.

If you have both a spouse and a child with ADD, there are some important differences between how you will naturally want to interact with them – differences that can really hurt your relationship with your spouse if you aren’t aware of them. 

ADD and Memory

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/08/2008.

One of our readers commented on his experiences with vastly improving memory since his diagnosis of ADD, so I went to Dr. Hallowell to ask him – does ADD affect memory?  His response was typical Hallowell in the very best sense:
 

ADD, Marriage and Life: What's Really Important

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 03/30/2008.

I’ve been trying to think about whether to write about my mother’s recent death in this blog, and decided I would share some thoughts with my readers, whom I am coming to think of as long-distance friends.  Death, of course, makes you think about what is important in life.

ADD and Marriage: What Lack of Focus Means

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 03/12/2008.

I am reading the posts of a woman who is about to get married to a man whom she adores who happens to have ADD.  She is frustrated and confused by his inability to pay attention to wedding planning.  This seems like a great time to elaborate upon what lack of focus means for people with ADD – and for their spouses.

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