ADHD and Marriage Blog

Using this Blog

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/19/2007.

Welcome to our ADHD and Marriage blog!  Please read this before you post:
Much of what is written on this blog is of a personal nature due to the blog’s topic.  We ask that you follow some basic rules:

Embracing Imperfection, or "My Adventures with SLOPPY Joes"

Submitted by SariSolden on 09/11/2007.

In her first blog post, Sari Solden shares some tips on self acceptance.

Guidelines for Making an ADD Marriage Work

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/11/2007.

I came upon this article about making one ADD spouse / one non-ADD spouse marriages work.  The author, Andrea Little (now Andrea Betts) had culled these guidelines together with her marriage support group peers.  I link to it here and hope that you enjoy the group's perspective and collective wisdom.

Follow this link to get to "Odd Couples!" by Andrea Betts.

Women With ADHD and Gender Expectations

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/07/2007.

Introducing Sari Solden, and a quick thought on gender roles

ADHD and Marriage: Choosing Your Responses Leads to Happiness

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/21/2007.

Effectively communicating with your spouse often seems like hard work - pushing the proverbial rock up the hill.  Have you ever stopped to consider the role that your everyday responses play in how smooth - or rocky - that communication is?  

Feeling Alone and Hopeless in an ADHD Relationship

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/13/2007.

I was moved by this recently posted comment:

"So much good advice but how do I get my husband to read with me or even try?
I am so alone and I honestly don't know where to turn. I can't leave due to finances and no where to go. I don't know if it would be right to call an abuse hotline, because he is just verbally abusive.
Learning more about the ADD mind is helping a little. Just no where to turn."

First, you are not alone!  There are many, many people out there who are in the same situation that you are in – feeling isolated in a relationship affected by ADHD, feeling as if they somehow didn’t get what they had bargained for in their marriage – that it all has been an ugly surprise.

ADHD and Marriage: Stop Resisting Learning About ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/13/2007.

To those struggling in a marriage that may be affected by ADHD, this may sound counterintuitive:  Determining whether or not a spouse has ADHD is a very good thing.  In fact, there is no negative side at all.  I broach this subject because a number of people have written comments suggesting that they believe that their spouse has ADHD, yet he is resisting getting a diagnosis (I use “he” here for simplicity – it could just as easily be “she”.)

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