Communication Tips with ADHD

Going on the Defensive, Making Excuses and Denying Fault During a Fight

Submitted by Katie in ADHDland on 05/16/2017.

Does the ADHD partner in your relationship become defensive, offer excuses and deny wrongdoing when legitimate grievances are raised? Here are some reasons why this could be happening and some tips on how they can be addressed.  

Why it's Important to Explain Your Anxiety

Submitted by Katie in ADHDland on 05/01/2017.

About 50 percent of adults with ADHD suffer from an anxiety disorder. Here's the story of how Katie came to grips with hers. 

6 Reasons Your ADHD Partner May Not Lead…and What To Do About It

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/06/2017.

Tired of always leading the show?  Here’s what's going on and how to connect, anyway.

Sleep Issues? Bedtime Wars? ADHD-Impacted Couples CAN Reconnect at Night

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/16/2016.

People with ADHD commonly have significant sleep issues, and couples impacted by ADHD often have radically different sleep schedules, with the ADHD partners being night owls and sometimes sporadic sleepers, and exhausted non-ADHD partners often falling into bed at a very early hour.  Here’s how ADHD-impacted couples can do much better in this area.

8 Shame Busters for Adults with ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/09/2016.

Trying to avoid feelings of shame is only human, but when it comes to adult ADHD, gentle engagement with raw areas can lead to significant gains.  But how to do that, when shame feels so bad?  These ideas, provided by adults with ADHD, can help both ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners.

8 Interactions That Trigger Shame in ADHD Partners

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/02/2016.

ADHD adults often carry a lot of hurt and shame with them.  Learn what these shame triggers are and you can significantly improve your interactions.  A recent conversation with five adults with ADHD and their partners highlights some of the issues.

10 Tips if You're 40+, ADHD and Single

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/22/2016.

ADHD may have undermined your last relationship, but it doesn’t have to destroy your future.  Here are 10 tips to keep your future healthier and happier:

7 Reasons Partners Lie...Lying Part 2

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 10/16/2015.

When I talk about lying problems in relationships, I'm not just talking about partners with ADHD.  Either partner can lie...and lies also exist in relationships in which there is no ADHD.  But there are some ways that the presence of ADHD increases the chances that one or the other partner will lie.  To be able to chart the best course to move away from lying in your own relationship, you must first understand why the lying is happening.

ADHD, Lying, and All That Stuff

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 10/09/2015.

Is lying a part of your relationship?  Are you eager to move past the lies to a more trusting partnership?  This is the first of several posts that will deal with lies and rebuilding trust in relationships impacted by ADHD.

5 Tips for Ridding Your Relationship of That 'Tone' of Voice

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/16/2015.

Chances are, you’ve heard that tone of voice.  The one that sounds demeaning to you…aggressive…just short of an insult and a put down…the tone that puts your teeth on edge.

Chances are also good that you’ve not only heard it, but used it yourself…and your partner hates it.

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