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If you are overwhelmed by the amount of information on the effect of ADHD on marriage, start with these posts first.

How Do You Know When to Quit A Relationship?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 12/18/2017.

Just saying 'you know in your heart' when to call it quits on your relationship is not quite enough.  

7 Dangerous Myths About Anger and ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/01/2017.

Anger often invades ADHD relationships, and couples may compound their pain and feed that anger by falling victim to these common myths.

How to Improve Memory if You Have ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/11/2017.

Research has shown for a while that brain training doesn't improve ADHD symptoms around short-term memory problems for adults with ADHD.  New research released this week suggests it doesn't help the general population of adults, either.  Now what?

3 Steps to Start Managing ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/30/2017.

Follow this path to get started on managing your ADHD.

No, ADHD is Not Fake!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 02/23/2017.

Let's stop with the 'alternative facts' version of whether or not ADHD is real!

Donald Trump is a Narcissist. Your Partner with ADHD Probably is Not

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 09/13/2016.

I cannot tell you how often I have had a non-ADHD partner contact me and say something such as “I have a partner with ADHD who is also a narcissist.” Though your partner seems self-absorbed, it is likely not narcissism, and with the right approach it usually CAN be addressed within your relationship.

8 Shame Busters for Adults with ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/09/2016.

Trying to avoid feelings of shame is only human, but when it comes to adult ADHD, gentle engagement with raw areas can lead to significant gains.  But how to do that, when shame feels so bad?  These ideas, provided by adults with ADHD, can help both ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners.

8 Interactions That Trigger Shame in ADHD Partners

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/02/2016.

ADHD adults often carry a lot of hurt and shame with them.  Learn what these shame triggers are and you can significantly improve your interactions.  A recent conversation with five adults with ADHD and their partners highlights some of the issues.

9 Reasons Porn Hurts

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/29/2013.

Why do partners struggle so much with porn use?  What's the big deal?  This article provides my observations based upon working with couples faced with this issue.

9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/04/2012.

Some days you just don’t have the energy to cope with your partner’s ADHD symptoms any more.  What can you do?  Here are nine tips to help you survive…

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