Just a note....For 16 years I've been the person, (bill payer, grocery shopper, reminder, intimacy initiator, lost article search committee, cook, house cleaner, dish washer, abandoned spouse, etc, etc, etc,) I know many of you understand....Well after 16 years I'm done attempting to be two people...I've never felt better...Because I think I know what is going to happen, my fear has kept me trudging along....But, I am tired, and I'm done....I have vowed with in my own heart to just STOP being anything but what God calls husbands to be....We will see what comes back......If nothing comes back there will be nothing....At this point, I am fine with that...I think I deserve a spouse who care's, who has correct priorities, who isn't a victim about being what she vowed to be....I am just tired...Love is both a noun and verb...It takes both...

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