Newbie here Hi!

First I was reading on here the other day and someone mentioned this book 

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, Or Self-Involved Parents 

Thank you to who ever mentioned it! It was like reading my whole life story. This is my relationship with my ADHD husband to a T. 

Now he has read it also but I think it flew right over his head. At least the part about what emotional connection is.

But anyhow, we have been in counseling individually. My question is has anyone had their spouse go do EDMR therapy? And results? He is going to go but I just don't know if my specific issues with him will get any better. The lack of joy, intimacy, awareness, ..ect. you all know.