We've made some huge progress lately and though he's not addressing it directly with me I suspect he is checking ADHD out on his own.  I am noticing big efforts on his part.

I need some example of how to word things I need him to do without making him feel tense or reactive.  For example he volunteered to take care of something that was bothering me but has yet to get to it a week later.

I would like to discuss the issues in more depth without it always seeming like we're going to have yet another conversation about our relationship.

He finds me pushy.   I genuinely don't see it but when asked my friends will admit I can be.