There are lots of frustrating things about my add husband but this one of late is driving me to madness. My husband can not keep his hands off my stuff. He says "if your crap wasn't such a mess I wouldn't have to touch it" Its not even a privacy thing; its sheer mayhem because I can't put my hands on things when I need them. ie: flash drive at 9:55pm when the printer ink runs out, collectible posters that were there 2 weeks ago,  He loses his stuff a lot, is late, forgetful, blurts, interrupts and worst of all does not connect the dots!! As soon as one episode is past, he forgets (denies) it ever happened and calls me a maniac when I get mad (Yes I yell out of frustration). I have tried to arm ourselves but am constantly booby trapped. How do 6 sets of keys get misplaced, how does a headset phone base get lost (I bought 2).. on and on and on...

There is no  talking to him about anything. He is miserable and sees it as all my fault. t is to the point where I have as little to do w/ him as possible and look forward to Mondays when he returns to work. Over the years (22) he has had periods of better and worse. took meds for a bit but never consistently. I am losing my resolve though I love him very much. There is ZERO intimacy and he can not tolerate any conversation when I try to talk to him about my needs. The conversion always turns back to him, what he's not getting and bad things are for him. I am at my wits end. I realized the insanity of all of this when I began to think about how I could lock up all my stuff so he can't get at it!  HELP!!!!!