There is a terrific blog out there that can provide lots of insight into what it's like to have ADD - and that provides very thoughtful ideas for how to get the most out of ADD.  The author, Jennifer Koretsky, has ADD and is the editor of ADDA's newsletter.  Read today's post, What Won't You Do to Get the Job Done? to get a flavor for how she might contribute to your own insights about ADD in yourself or your spouse.