Overview: A team of ADHD and ADHD relationship experts ready to help you turn your relationship around
Founded and led by Melissa Orlov, ADHD & Marriage Consulting is an integrated team of experts dedicated to supporting the needs of couples and adults impacted by ADHD. Why only that? Because creating change when ADHD and responses to ADHD are impacting your relationship takes specific, targeted knowledge. So, in regular team meetings we pool our talent and combined decades of ADHD-related experience to make sure you get world-class assistance as you turn your lives around.
We work with both couples and individuals (with ADHD, or partnered with someone with ADHD), providing the consulting services appropriate to each situation. In some cases, you may choose to work with both a consulting coach and a couples’ consultant to get comprehensive support.
As consultants, we focus on what needs to be done. Yes, that often means suggested ‘homework’ between sessions to help explore strategies we think might work for you. Even when dealing with your emotional issues, we are keeping forward motion in mind: What do your feelings mean for defining what actions you and your partner might take? How do we (client and consultant) keep heading towards your most important goals?
Sessions are conducted by video conference. We will help you:
- Understand which key issues in your relationship might be related to ADHD or responses to ADHD
- Prioritize what to work on first for optimal improvement, and suggest targeted strategies
- Narrow the communication gap between distinctly different partners
- Identify critical personal boundaries and goals and start using that information to your benefit
- Troubleshoot across diverse skill sets
- Come to terms with your own role in marital issues and gain inspiration to change direction
- Create a plan to reach long-term goals for your relationship that aligns with who you are as individuals
- Gain mutual agreement to those goals
- Effectively identify and track progress
- Locate useful resources as needed
- Extend and reinforce progress you've made in the ADHD Effect Couples Seminar
What it is, and is not
With ADHD & Marriage Consulting you receive personalized support for repairing and invigorating your relationship from a team of professionals who are expert in how ADHD does – and does not – affect couples and individuals. ADHD & Marriage Consulting is NOT medical advice, and it is not therapy. For medical advice, please see your doctor.
Can I choose my ADHD & Marriage consultant?
Yes, assuming that person is available. We will also make suggestions, based upon your needs.
Fees
Fees for consulting services are not covered by insurance, though some health spending accounts may cover some costs. Consulting fees vary from $125 to $295 a session, depending upon with whom you work. Some sliding scale options are available. If you are not satisfied with our services, you may stop at any time or move to a different consultant.
Intensity of work
Many start with weekly meetings then backs to every other week once clients and consultant feel that less regular meetings will support the client's needs. However, some clients start with intensives of twice a week or even 2.5 days at once, while others choose less frequent options for maintenance. We will work with you to fit your needs, budget and progress.
About our consultants
Please visit our About page to meet the ADHD Marriage Consulting team!
What other options do I have?
Melissa provides a nine-week couples seminar live by Zoom three times a year (fall, winter, and spring) and in a self-study version the remainder of the year. Regardless of whether you decide to work with the consulting group, we STRONGLY recommend you take the seminar. Past participants repeatedly say the course ‘is one of the best things they have ever done’ for their relationship.
We also run non-ADHD partner support groups, and an ADHD coaching group (Foundations in Habit Development) for ADHD partners who've completed the seminar.
How do I get started?
If you are fairly confident you wish to explore consulting, please schedule a 20 minute call with one of our senior consultants who match clients to consultants by clicking on this link. PLEASE MAKE SURE TO NOT ONLY SCHEDULE THE APPOINTMENT BUT ALSO FILL OUT THE FEW QUESTIONS WE ASK AFTER YOU SCHEDULE.
If you are not sure you wish to do consulting but want to find out more, please consider the couples seminar, support groups or books to learn more about ADHD and how it impacts your relationship. You can also contact us with your questions.
