If you’re struggling in your relationship, there is probably something that you grieve about.  For many, it’s ending up in a relationship that does not resemble the one you had hoped to have.  For others, it’s grieving a lost connection or feeling lonelier than expected.  Or perhaps there is a trauma in your past…

I found this perspective on grief a useful one to reflect upon.  It’s quite possible that your relationship will not ever resemble what you had envisioned.  This is true of most romantic relationships, whether or not ADHD is on board.  Imagination is strong…the reality of daily life can be difficult.  So that grief may always be there in some form.

And yet, as you find a way to bring greater connection and joy into your life, you have an opportunity to create a relationship different from the original dream, but also good.  Your life, as it expands, demonstrates that your original vision is not the only option.

Acknowledging feelings of grief (often shared by both partners in a struggling relationship) is healthy.  Allow them to flow through you rather than resist them.  But don’t expect them to disappear.  Instead, allow your life to expand and move ahead and over time that grief will no longer hold so much power.

Do you acknowledge your grief?

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