When my children were young, we had two sayings we used to tell them our expectations.  One was “You don’t have to succeed, but you do have to try.”  We wanted our kids to learn to engage with the world around them and try, much more than we wanted them to chase goals.  Sure, we applauded successes…but we emphasized effort.

It turns out that research suggests this is a great strategy for building a foundation of well-being.

It’s a relevant concept in ADHD-impacted relationships, too.  You can only give the best effort you can give and (I hope) that will be enough.

What might best look like?

• Managing ADHD symptoms using all three legs of treatment (and sticking with it)
• NOT trying to get a specific response from your partner (a certain way of saying things, for example)
• Acknowledging and celebrating effort
• Learning how to give and accept bids for repair when things fall short
• Staying calm so the two of you can engage constructively

Stosny is giving a big shout out here to bringing the best you to your life that you can by engaging fully, and making your best effort.

P.S.  The other saying we used with our kids was ‘Tantrums don’t work.  Come find me when you are ready to talk.’  Combined, both sayings set a basic framework for constructive interactions and doing one’s best.

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