Submitted by myluv33 on 07/31/2011.
Hi I am new to this forum. I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half and he has ADHD. We have been broken up for almost two months and its been the hardest two months of my life. I thought I was doing the right thing by agreeing to take a break from our relationship. But feel like that was the worst decision I could have ever made. I still Love everything about him but it was very hard because I didn't really understand what he was going through having ADHD. I thought he was just making excuses about not wanting to do anything with me and the girls. I wish I knew this website existed them.
I still want to be with him but I'm not sure if this is what he wants. I'm so confused because I don't want to push him further away by constantly telling him I want him back. I just don't know what to do..lost and confused
I guess the only advice I
Submitted by SherriW13 on
I guess the only advice I have is the same as I would give anyone...if he said he needs space, then give him space. It is true that if he's unraveling from his ADHD then the harder you try to push him, the more you tell him how much you need him, the further away he will pull. Just because he has ADHD doesn't mean he's incapable of spending time with you and your girls...although quite often distraction and inattention to those who want their attention the most is a big part of ADHD. I would assume that after a year and a half together you've seen the affects of his ADHD on your relationship. Am I correct in assuming that he asked for the 'break' since you say you 'agreed' to it? This may be ADHD related, but not necessarily. Again, I would give him the space he's asked for and try and focus on myself and finding ways to fill my time. It is bad for anyone to be constantly telling someone they want them back. It is OK to let him know where your heart is and that you're willing to work on it, but the time has to come when you move forward.