Hello everyone,
I'm a women from Belgium, since 3 months I have a relationship and yes my partner has ADHD, he told me from the begining and after 2 months I start to notice that we react on things completelly different. So I bought myself a book ADHD relationships, witch brought me to this site. The book is a huge confrontation for me.
When I just bought it my partner said immediately, I also should read this ... I was very happy to notice that he knows that it's a way we have to travel together. But I also know that he isn't a book reader although he knows that it will help us.
So I thought be myself... how can I handle this??? Than I came to this: I make a huge mindmap with lots of paintings and collars and of course the most important information we can use at this moment and I hang it in my desk when it is completely finished. There will be a moment that he walks in and then I simply let hem know that I made it for us. In the first case because I know he isn't a reader and in the second case so I can always see why things don't go the way I may be expect them to go and to see the tips everyday, so I know for myself what I should do and shouldn't do...
If it doesn't work out... no problem I'll find something else. One thing is for sure for me it will work to remind me of how different we are.
In daylife I speak Dutch, so if there are mistakes in my text.. I'm sorry for that.
Greetz Karen
You're a Genius!
Submitted by kellyj on
What a great idea! I was just thinking to myself yesterday " self.....I can see something visually and in a split second...assimilate huge amounts of information and come to a complete understanding of it compared to someone trying to tell me the same thing where many times the meaning gets lost or misinterpreted and I'm left pondering it.....sometimes for days.....and then finally figuring out just what that person was trying to (really) get across to me."
I've also wished in passing thoughts how great it would be if we could all make a video of what we see and how we interpret our world....with a camera mounted on our forehead but this camera would have the ability to accurate portray what's really going on in our heads so anyone watching this video could actually "see" what's really going on in our heads in video form. How great would that be?.......for some, maybe not! ha ha
Yes, yes, yes......you are a genius! Coming from someone who has ADHD....this would be a miracle!
I've never heard of or seen the concept of a "mindmap" before but I immediately got the "picture". ( sorry..couldn't help the bad pun)
J