Recently a poster suggested that ADHD is not real - and that those who have ADHD only exhibit the symptoms because they think they have ADHD - in other words, they convince themselves into having ADHD. Maybe I'm just cranky about all of the 'alternative facts' versions of reality I'm getting pelted with these days, but this idea really fired me up. I can't just let it go. Because it's egregiously and outrageously wrong...and spreading myths like this is really hurtful to people who have to figure out how to live with - and manage - ADHD.
It is a well documented FACT that ADHD is real - here's what two top researchers said about this question:
"Statements to the effect that ADHD is not a valid disorder, is a myth created by mercenary pharmaceutical companies or mental health professionals for sheer commercial gain, or is indistinct from the other disorders with which it may be associated are not only wrong, they are egregiously so. Numerous difference emerged in the context of these two studies between those with ADHD and general population (community) controls and between those with ADHD and Clinical control groups (those with other mental health diagnoses) that make such assertions moribund. To continue to make such statements in the face of such overwhelming evidence to the contrary is to show either a stunning scientific illiteracy or reflect planned religious or political propaganda intended to deceive the uninformed or unsuspecting general public." (Barkley, Murphy and Fischer ADHD in Adults: What the Science Says, p. 435)
Individual people may not LIKE ADHD or the fact that it exists and impacts millions of people, but the actual facts (vs. the opinion or alternative facts this poster was passing along as fact) are unassailable. It DOES exist, and it DOES matter. About 5% of adult have ADHD. It is tied physiological differences in the brain (both in amount of neurotransmitters in the reward and attention systems, and in the size of certain areas of the brain. It's not about willpower. Anyone who wants to further pursue the question of whether the researchers (and the CDC) have gotten this right can take a look at the book above, which includes a thorough review of not only the two longitudinal studies mentioned in the quote, but also covers and references over 360 other studies about ADHD and its impact.
The myth that ADHD is not real or is somehow a moral failing (either not trying hard enough, or something you cook up to be able to get attention) is crazy and hurtful talk. It perpetuates the idea that ADHD is something to be ashamed about; that seeking good treatment (especially medications) shouldn't be necessary - thus impeding treatment; and this myth tears families apart ('if you would just try harder, you could just get over this.')
I'm tired of people pushing alternative facts in a whole lot of arenas these days. My small contribution in the war on science is to set the record straight about ADHD.
Pass this along to anyone who cares about ADHD.
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The term ADHD seems to be a misnomer
Submitted by Nacnud on
My partner is diagnosed with ADHD, and she certainly struggles to function in life. But I have trouble understanding exactly the nature of what is gong on with her. She certainly doesn’t have an inability to focus her attention on something. It’s more that she focuses on the “wrong” things. “Wrong” in the sense that they are not the things she needs to do to succeed. Seems to me it’s not attention deficit; more like inability to control or direct attention. Does that make sense?
Dopamine Desires
Submitted by AuraWolf on
Sorry, I know this is a relatively old comment but I wanted to respond because I feel like the understanding might help. ADHD is all about neurotransmitters. The most prevalent of which (for ADHD peeps) is Dopamine, the happy/feel-good chemical. ADHD people don't have enough. A lot of the time it can be incredibly easy to focus on the things that give us dopamine and incredibly difficult (almost impossible without immense self-discipline and usually medication) to focus for any length of time on a task that does not give us dopamine. Even if we know that completing that task will in some indirect way lead to good things.
Aura Wolf....Definitely!
Submitted by c ur self on
This statement is the reality of an adhd mind....(At least it is in my house) But the product of being one with (attempting to sharing in all phases of life) this mind type, is mostly what you read here.....I spent the first 4 years of my marriage attempting to live like priorities and responsibilities were simple choices for everyone....LOL....I've spent the past 9 years working to put in place the appropriate boundaries that will allow me to focus on the simple things we can share (dopamine producers, simple relaxed moments etc.) but also to limit (respect differences) engagement in the area's that demand responsible actions....
What I've experienced and read here about other's marriages....Unless we are willing to accept the reality about our high level adhd spouses minds....Step away through boundaries (accept what we see, stop thinking for them) where we know we are nothing a like, and never will be....Then the product will always be the overwhelming of the non who jumps into (demands) to their own self justified view of life...(children, jobs, houses, stuff)..Which is fine for them, if they are willing to put out the energy to responsibly accomplish this day to day life style...If there is one thing I know (learned the hard way) about life with my wife...As long as I stay in this marriage, I must keep MY life small, and simple, one I can manage completely without expecting help or intervention from her....
The saddest part to me is, that most mind types that (not necessarily adhd minds) have no ability or willingness, to produce this type responsible energy, want admit it, (because of the blind spots, denial, shame etc.) so the reality of most non's here (me for one) is we find ourselves in these difficult and heavily burdened lives, because we trusted someone....***Love is blind until the work starts*** Or, in this case doesn't...
We should always believe the reality we see in others, and never allow our own emotions to over power wisdom in decision making...If I'm honest with myself, the red flags were there....
c
It's funny how...
Submitted by AuraWolf on
I've lived with ADHD all my life, been on and off different medications and treatments. I'm back on meds and treatment now for school and... looking back I have many regrets for the life balance I foisted on previous partners. But I actually came here because I'm doing OK now, improving quite a bit thanks to my treatment but my current partner is ADHD-I incarnate. I'm astounded by the stories some of these people have told, neither one of us is that bad, but also I'm starting to see myself in them. I can't be a NT caretaker/parent partner, but I feel myself slipping into that role :/
Hi Aura
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
It is so helpful to hear your perspective. What would you say has been most helpful in managing ADHD so you can function better at school (and everyday life as well)? I would really appreciate your thoughts on both meds and ADHD hacks, routines, etc. if applicable. Thank you!
If only there was a simple fix.
Submitted by AuraWolf on
Unfortunately my case is a little unique in a few ways. When I was in high-school we did the trial-and-error game because my parents insisted and I found that Adderall works. I went off it for quite some time due to life circumstances and functioned... ok? By myself for that time. But I love learning and have often found myself falling down hyperfocused rabbit holes of whatever topic fascinates me today. So now I'm following my passion of learning by attending college for my true niche passion (becoming a sex therapist) while trying to pick classes that let me hyperfocus on an area of interest and then infodump during class lol!
The best advice I can give others is don't give up trying to find the best fit of medication/therapy/habits/routine. It's a ton of trial and error, a lot of failure and frustration (and side effects :( ) because everyone is physically and mentally different. You might have to try a few therapists (or a life coach instead) and a few different medications (sometimes more than one at a time) before you find one that fits. That's not your fault, not anyone's fault, it just is what is. And routines suck, habits suck, but they're really important, and it's just a important to forgive yourself if you fall off the wagon, so long as you get back on.
Lastly, Google "Eat the frog" it might help, it might not. But my partner said it helped him a little bit.
Sorry for the book but I hope some things in it can help you! <3
Thank you!
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
Thank you for so kindly taking the time to break down what has worked for you. I really appreciate this and loved reading about "Eat the frog." A great strategy that could help anyone!
That helps!
Submitted by Nacnud on
That actually helps a lot understanding what's going on. It's very consistent with my observations. Thanks.
Misnomer
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
I'm the "Non" in my relationship. My BF has no problem paying "attention" to things that interest or excite him. While it is not a problem for me, he often has trouble with attention when it comes to everyday, mundane things.
From what he has told me, he has calmed down considerably from what he was like in his 20's and 30's. He says I wouldn't have dated him back then. He is probably right. :D