First of all, Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there!
I have been stewing for a bit and decided to post here because it usually makes me feel better. The short story is that my husband forgot Mother's Day. I am not surprised. This is far from the first time as birthdays, anniversaries and Mother's Day are often forgotten or unacknowledged. My expectations for him to remember... and especially to plan or do anything are long gone. But it is still hard on these days, nonetheless. I mentioned Mother's Day several times this week and said I would like to go out for dinner today because I know if I want something, I have to ask for it explicitly. But still, dinner will only happen if I remind him again... on the day itself. And I get that it is unreasonable to expect my untreated ADHD spouse to remember Mother's Day, despite several reminders. But it is still colossally disappointing when my friends and in-laws are texting with their breakfasts-in-bed and days-of-pampering and asking me what my husband did for me. While I may have tempered my expectations over the years, this still hurts. I will likely steal some me-time today and maybe go treat myself to a new top or pair of shoes, but this non-spouse stuff can be extra hard on days like this.
Happy Mother's Day to you too
Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on
Happy Mother's Day to you too.
I know how you feel. I've gotten nothing here either. Not even a verbal "Happy Mother's Day", despite asking H if he was going to call his mother today for it. That was his cue to wish me a happy mother's day. It came and went. Nada.
Treat yourself and know that you deserve it, even if no one at home says it.
You too, Exhaustedlady
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
Thank you for making me feel like I'm not alone, EL, though I wish neither of us had to be here. I hope you find a way to treat yourself as well - you deserve it, too! :)
This forum needs a secret
Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on
This forum needs a secret santa type thing for events like these ;)
I was asked yesterday what I wanted to do today. I said just have some quiet time. I don't need a big fuss, but I would at least like someone to wish me a happy mother's day - to say the actual words. And it would be nice if my husband had helped my 4 year old make me a card, because she's too small to do it herself or know that it is actually mother's day. I don't want to make my own card or have to ask people to say happy mother's day to me. That's just truly depressing.
Happy Mother’s Day to you, too
Submitted by Brindle on
Mine also did nothing and said nothing to me, but he did know it was MD. He rarely does anything. Sometimes he will say, “where do you want to go eat?” for MD, but most of the time not even that. I’ve given up on him doing anything special for me.
I’m sorry you are hurting, too, Melody and EL. It’s extra hard when we watch others on days like today. I hope you were able to rebound, to treat yourself and actually enjoy it.