I found a tiny but affordable place to rent and I signed a lease. I'm moving out in 2 weeks. I bought a dependable car. It made me sad. I returned it yesterday. I'm buying a convertible today. I may have lost my mind. But I am happy and I feel free. ❤ Last night I realized that I have so much more energy lately because I am no longer managing his life for him. I send him one text a day re: our child's schedule. I no longer remind him about anything else. I no longer spend hours researching and reading about strategies to help him with his executive function issues. I am not healed yet. I am sad and angry and at times I feel overwhelmed by my sadness and anger. I let the feelings come so they can go. I have a lot of healing to do. But I am free. ❤
I'm moving out
Submitted by daizzebelle on 10/21/2019.
Free
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
Daizzebelle, this post gave me so much hope. It is heartening to hear both the struggles and the positives on the other side. Thank for you this.
I have been following your story on here and am so, so happy for you! Way to go! Let your hair blow in the wind, girl! :)
Thank you so much melody!
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I think of you often and wish the very best for you & your daughter. You deserve every happiness ❤
Daizzebelle,
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
Daizzebelle,
It may take a long time to heal. You can't put a price on freedom. I'm so happy for you. Take care of yourself! :)
Thank you so much Adele!
Submitted by daizzebelle on
Thank you so much Adele! Freedom is priceless!! I hope everything is going well for you.
Best wishes to you daizzebelle....
Submitted by c ur self on
Being subjected to the mental and emotional stress of an unhealthy relationship for such a long period, makes stress free down time seem like heaven....Please take care of yourself, and don't make any rash decisions....I suggest you find some good books to read, and mature healthy minded and healthy living friends to associate with....
My biggest obstacle to this when my first wife passed away was boredom, and the sense of dread, that some how life was passing me by...Looking back, I should have learned to be at peace with myself, before attempting another relationship....I called my daughter (she was 28 at the time) one day, and told her I was going to test drive a Corvette!,,,,She said,, do you mind if I ride w/ you? I said sure...So I drove it, and she drove it...I told her I think I will buy it....She said "Dad why don't you sleep on it"?....So after we left the man's house and got just about home....I looked over at my daughter and said....OMG, I almost bought a corvette!!!....Which I needed like a hole in the head....Death, Divorce, Separation....It can do strange things to us for a while... LOL....
I pray you experience a lot of peace....
c
Thank you C
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I wish you and your wife all the best.
Amongst the anger and sadness
Submitted by Sollertiae on
Amongst the anger and sadness, this sounds wonderful. I am happy you have found somewhere safe, calm and with nourishment for yourself. :)
Thank you sollertiae
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I am sad but also relieved. I feel so much lighter and happier.
Moved out almost 3 weeks ago
Submitted by daizzebelle on
I'm at peace. I no longer worry constantly about whether or not he is going to get things done. We don't communicate much...we send each other brief, polite text msgs to make arrangements for our daughter who is 12 years old.
I went by my old place last week to pick up a few things. He was sitting on the couch in his boxers surrounded by his piles of clutter. I felt sad. I miss the man I married. The man who at night when we went to bed would hold me tight and say "I've been waiting for this all day." I'm sad, but I am free.
This made me happy and sad at the same time
Submitted by 1Melody1 on
I am so happy for you, Daizze... but it must be so hard to see that. When you described him sitting in his boxers with all that clutter, I could immediately envision my husband like that. But there has to come a time when we move forward. You are so strong and I am happy you feel free. :)
Thank you melody
Submitted by daizzebelle on
It is sad but as I told him a few months ago, I can't want it *for* him. He has to want to do the work, and he doesn't. I am heartbroken but I feel so much better. I'm so sad and yet so relieved that I am out. I was trying to manage his life for him and it was not only exhausting, it was suffocating me...I was dying inside. I'm sure I will always feel some sadness but I can breathe again. It is life changing. Hugs ❤ I think of you and your daughter often. ❤