Submitted by ChrissyC_71 on 11/30/2023.
I am new here and I am hoping that maybe someone else can offer assistance or suggestions for coping with the impulsive road rage that happens with ADHD.
Whenever we go anywhere my husband will always end up frustrated with the other drivers (they are speeding up and slowing down-pick a speed!) or the amount of traffic (why are we going so slow??) or drive aggressively (tailgate, yell out expletives, etc.)
I usually sit in the passenger side gripping the armrest and praying lol. I put a crystal in the cup holder to rub for good energy when I am full of anxiety.
Anyone else have this issue?? How do you handle it??
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Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
Wish I had an answer for you.
My fiance just started doing this within the last year. It worries me.
Thank you! It definitely adds
Submitted by ChrissyC_71 on
Thank you! It definitely adds another layer of stress for sure.
Wish you could drive instead
Submitted by Swedish coast on
This sounds very stressful. I suppose your husband prefers to drive and not leave the wheel to you? It would probably be safer for everyone involved if you drove.
I'm sorry you're uncomfortable with this.
No unfortunately he said he
Submitted by ChrissyC_71 on
No unfortunately he said he drives everywhere when we are together. He said my driving stresses him out
My husband will drive
Submitted by Forgotten Person on
My husband will drive aggressively if he is that mood. On one occasion during a meltdown he stopped the car whilst driving along, causing cars behind to stop and with cars coming in the opposite direction said he was getting out to walk 5 miles home on a country road. All dramarama attention seeking because things weren't going his way. He denied it all afterwards. It was a turning point in our relationship for me to feel he didn't care what danger he had put me in.
Yes he will say "well they
Submitted by ChrissyC_71 on
Yes he will say "well they almost hit us" or " he was driving like an idiot!" It has been this way forever. It is much less if we head out right after he has taken his meds in the morning but if we are still out and about when they wear off it gets challenging.
Road trips are a thing of the past now.
Submitted by Exhausting on
Oh yes, I can relate. I refuse to go away on road trips now as it is not only embarrassing but downright stressful and not enjoyable. Unfortunately, my ADHD husband is a professional driver of very large rigs - in my country we pull two trailers up to 25 meters (75 feet) so this does require a lot of skill and I am reminded - often - that he is a much better driver than all the other #&@&*%4 on the road and they should "just move out of the way and let me pass". It's a nightmare. So, yes, the road rage is real and not your imagination.
It's an easy fix....It's called a boundary!
Submitted by c ur self on
My wife insists on using her iphone while driving (doesn't have the road rage) and that's a simple no go for me....She is more than welcome to ride w/me, or we drive separate....When you are married to a person who demonstrates unsafe, intrusive or abusive traits...We have to live like they don't exist in the area's of life, that is a no go for us....Never subject yourself to act's of unwise and dangerous living...
Even though boundaries limit sharing in area's...It also forces accountability!...If I was your husband, and I showed so little respect for you, that I refused to consider my actions in area's shared life, to the point you started using non-participating boundaries for your own safety and peace of mind, it would definitely get my attention....Whether I cared enough to do something about it or not....Just take care of you!
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Hi, I've had a similar
Submitted by earbuds on
Hi, I've had a similar experience. Even when my ADHD husband doesn't necessarily yell at other drivers, he'll constantly make little sounds of annoyance and comments under his breath about everyone else's driving. I agree with you that it's stressful and just no fun to be around. At one point I was getting anxious just being in the car with him, because I anticipated every negative thing he was going to say, and I would be so stressed (and annoyed myself) that I would be in tears. Even when the anger and annoyance wasn't intense from him, it was still incessant and therefore insidious. I avoided all car trips with him as much as I could, and flat-out refused to go on long trips with him. I had to to whatever I could to put my feelings first and protect myself. Now, since he's been diagnosed and has had treatment and takes medication, it's somewhat better. There have been times when I make his turn around and take me home because he's being so unpleasant, and why would I want to be around that? Sorry I don't have much of a solution for you. But I empathize completely. Best wishes.
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Submitted by Lama2020 on
I have the same problem. it's been that way for over 30 years. Either I drive or we take separate cars. He will never change