Does anyone have any advice on how I can help my husband see the ADD signs that I can see he displays? We have a 19 year old son who was diagnosed ADHD when he was 5 (so I understand ADHD challenges). My husband had no issues excepting our son's diagnosis. But when I bring up the topic that he may have it too, he brushes it off as a non-issue. I believe it is the reason for several of our marital issues like, arguing & financial problems. He has a business but hasn't been paid in a year because of poor decisions years ago. We have had issues for years and now I am fighting off anger and resentment towards him daily. Not sure how much more I can take. Relationships require work and I feel like I'm the only one working at it. I could really use some advise from those who can relate to my situation. Thanks
I suspect my husband has ADD but he is in denial
Submitted by scoullard@outlo... on 06/26/2024.
No Advice, but can relate
Submitted by swampyankee on
I recognized ADHD symptoms 15 years ago in my husband, and have yet to get him to see the signs in his own behavior. He's unfortunately very good at explaining them all away--or deflecting them onto other people, if he can. It's come down to the ultimatum that he get tested for ADHD and begin using strategies to mitigate his symptoms, or we separate. Ironically enough, in true ADHD fashion, he didn't take any of my unhappiness seriously until it became a crisis.
So I guess my advice is this: Set hard boundaries, keep to them, and know when you are finally done. It's not good for either of you to be angry and resentful. Life is too short for that!
p.s. ....It took me about 10 years to finally internalize what I just said....so be kind to yourself if you are struggling.
Thank you. I hope both of our
Submitted by scoullard@outlo... on
Thank you. I hope both of our spouses will see themselves for who they really are. In the meantime I appreciate your support.