Submitted by murph24 on 07/02/2024.
My wife left in January, very suddenly and became very cold.
for the past 6 months she has either said has been ambivalent about whether she wants to come back. In the lows she has said some very hurtful things - "you're not my wife" "I don't love you like a wife". In the highs she's spent more time together as a family with our son, said she was trying and gave elements of what now seems like false hope.
She has impulsively paid a deposit for divorce then immediately put it on hold. She has put our family home up for sale then blocked viewers.
we are back in a cycle of her saying it's completely over...
im so so exhausted. I love her but can't keep going on like this.
anyone?
That’s extreme
Submitted by Catterfly on
Hi Murph,
What you're going through has some elements of what many of us have experienced: divorce threats, impulsivity, and emotional abuse. But this sounds really extreme.
I wonder if something else (in addition to or besides ADHD) is going on. Is this a standard pattern of behaviour for her? Or is it something new?
Regardless, this behaviour is obviously not ok and you need to take steps to protect your physical health and mental wellness - as well as for your son.
I'm sorry you're going through this.