My wife is currently unmedicated for ADHD. Her former PCP did an interview with her well over a year ago and concluded she has ADHD (which we already knew). At an annual follow up, she mentioned to her new PCP (PA for the former PCP) she wants to explore medication for ADHD. New PCP wanted a host of testing and we're waiting on the result. 

To my actual issue- yesterday I was running errands after an appointment. I always update my wife on my whereabouts usually through messenger- leaving the dentist, headed to the grocery store, etc... I am 20 minutes from home and she calls me and with anger in her voice she says "I thought you'd be home by now! Where are you?!". I calmly said I'm almost home, I told you what I was doing... Her attitude quickly changed and she said "oh that's right". No apology. When I got home I looked at messenger to confirm that she actually had looked at my message and replied - which she had.

Once home and after dinner I calmly explained that I send her updates way more than I need to and she shouldn't be mad and just check her phone instead of calling me with an attitude. I don't expect her to remember everything, just to remember oh we already talked this. She should also actually, you know, trust me because I'm her husband, I'm responsible, have integrity, and communicate.

I'm trying to do everything in my power to prevent and avoid things like this, and to communicate, but this crap really irritates me! I grew up with a father that was irresponsible and a liar, so issues like this insult my integrity!