Katie, a 30-year-old journalist, has ADHD and her husband does not. In her first blog for ADHD and Marriage, she talks about life before and after receiving her diagnosis at 29 years old, and the moment she realized her marriage could be saved.
Ned Hallowell likes to talk about the "moral diagnosis" of ADHD - the idea that those with ADHD are lazy or ill-willed. The 'moral diagnosis' was what people used to turn to when they didn't know as much about ADHD as we do now. Yet the idea that an ADHD spouse is 'lazy' is amazingly persistent. How to get at that?