A struggling couple asks what ADHD has to do with one man's quick rages. His partner writes 'He can be a lovely person but it doesn't take much to make him snap , in particular with me.' Alcohol makes it worse. Melissa explores what could be going on, how it's related to ADHD, and how to respond.
ADHD doesn't correlate with intelligence one way or the other. In this post, a professor with ADHD tells his story and provides encouraging words about the benefits of actively managing ADHD.
Your partnership includes too many lies – big and small. In three previous posts I’ve written about why this is happening, and how this hurts your relationship. ADHD – and responses to ADHD – can certainly play a role. So what to do? Here are 9 strategies for ending in your relationship:
Chances are, you’ve heard that tone of voice. The one that sounds demeaning to you…aggressive…just short of an insult and a put down…the tone that puts your teeth on edge.
Chances are also good that you’ve not only heard it, but used it yourself…and your partner hates it.
It’s the catch-22 of ADHD-impacted relationships (and many non-ADHD marriages, as well!) For many couples impacted by ADHD, distraction, disengagement and retreat from conflict leave non-ADHD partners feeling ‘stranded’ and lonely. Their natural response is to pursue their partner for attention…and disaster results. What do you do?
I am continually impressed with the enormous amount of support that is so generously shared on this website. The amount of care and concern that posters have for each other is just tremendous. And it’s great to see that it comes from both the ADHD/non-ADHD sides of the story. Each in her/his way, sharing perspectives that are so valuable to be heard.
I appreciate Melissa’s introduction of me, the co-author of her latest book, The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD. I will be guest-blogging here for a bit, and it is my honor to do so. I look forward to sharing some thoughts with you, and I hope you will share your thoughts with me as well.
Melissa will present a CE event for GoodTherapy.org at 9 a.m. PDT on October 11, titled Tools to Help Couples Impacted by ADHD Thrive. It is available free with 1.5 CE credits for all GoodTherapy.org members. For details, or to register, please click here.
Just read an entry on Sari Solden's blog about what to look for when searching for a marriage counselor if one or more of you has ADHD. Go to this link to read her suggestions.
