technology

I'm often asked what technology can help with some of the basic elements of better managing life when ADHD is a factor.  Here are some high quality, easy, and often free apps and other technologies that couples report have helped their progress towards a calmer and happier life together.

Eric Tivers recently published his view of the 30 best apps for those with ADHD in ADDitude Magazine (go to this link.)  I would like to add one more that both my husband and I use very successfully - WorkFlowy.  This is a VERY simple outlining program that is really great for capturing and organizing information like 'to do' lists, grocery lists, and presentation outlines.  Very flexible, very simple, and it goes across your various devices.  Take a look at the article to see if any of the apps might help you be more productive (or get more sleep!)

Excessive use of electronics is not a neutral activity when it comes to relationships – it takes time away from family and partners.  In our house it can feel as if my husband’s electronics rule my life.  If I ask a question or sound speculative about anything, the first thing he does is whip out his phone to look up the answer.  He views it as being helpful and interesting.  I view it as a distraction that pulls his attention away from me and from our conversation.

It's important to find time for building stronger connections with your partner, but even with good intentions this is just plain hard to do!  When we are busy we often just respond to what's hot.  It's stressful to feel as if “urgency” is the criteria that runs your life.  And, quite frankly, “urgent” says little about value to you, just timeliness.  The result is that we often leave the less urgent, but more valuable marriage and family parts of our lives behind.  Here are seven very specific tips for reclaiming your marriage and family time in the face of this pressure.