ADHD and Marriage Blog

Work With Transition Issues, Not Against Them

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/22/2008.

Transitions are often very hard with people with ADHD, and this can cause headaches for couples.  The typical response is that a non-ADD spouse expresses anger and disappointment that the ADHD spouse is never on time, can’t start or complete chores, and never seems to get into bed at a reasonable hour.  This doesn’t need to be the way things are, though...

If You Know About ADHD Before You Are Married

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/31/2008.

I recently read posting from a woman who has recently discovered her fiance has ADHD.  In a somewhat unexpected way, the post brings forward some real issues for those who are considering marriage to an ADHD person, so I thought it worthwhile to post it, and some thoughts on this topic, as a blog entry:

Where's Melissa?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/30/2008.

A thank you to all who have been posting responses and ideas in the forum this month!  As I catch back up with the blog and forum (I've been on vacation, feeling guilty about not attending to all of you...but immersed enough in what I was doing that I didn't really have time to respond to the forum questions thoughtfully). I've been impressed with the tone, as well as the content. of what people have written.  (One person even posted EXACTLY what I would have posted as a response on memory - an article from a Hallowell newsletter.  Wow!)

The ADHD Marriage Balancing Act

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/01/2008.

Ned Hallowell likes to say that while ADHD can be a reason you did something in the past, it shouldn’t be used as an excuse to do it over and over again.  But before the non-ADD of you start to say “see, this is exactly what I mean!” let me clarify. 

ADHD & Marriage Therapy in Person with Dr. Hallowell

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/05/2008.

Starting soon..!  For those of you who are within driving distance of Boston, Dr. Hallowell and his wife, Sue (an excellent therapist in her own right) will be conducting three group therapy sessions for couples starting this June 24th. This is a great opportunity for couples where one or both partners has ADHD to get the advice of real experts, in person, and to meet others who share some of the issues.  The details follow - please read them before calling to register:

Creating New Behaviors - a Resource

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/29/2008.

There are two new resources that I want to make you aware of.  One is a new book by Nancy Ratey that provides a really interesting and useful approach to finally changing the ADHD behaviors that have seem so entrenched.  The other is an upcoming conference about ADHD, sponsored by ADDA.

ADD and Marriage Problems: What to Tell Your Kids

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 05/28/2008.

If you are in a marital crisis, do you say anything about it to your kids?  While the answer to this question is extremely personal, I think there are some rules of thumb.  Some of these are based in my personal feelings about how you foster trust in relationships, including the parent/child relationship.  I would love to hear what you think and your own approaches.

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