Anger, Frustration & ADHD

10 Minutes a Day to Greater Happiness

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/17/2013.

Yes, that sounds like a sales pitch...but it's not.  Happiness is good for our brains and good for handling stress better - in marriages, if you are feeling upbeat you are more likely to be able to take some bumps in the road.  If you're feeling down, pretty much everything seems grim.  Here's a link to a UTube TED talk on happiness that will not only make you laugh out loud, it also has a very important message about happiness.  I urge you to watch it...and also to try two exercises.

How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 07/18/2012.

In a recent class I was asked this interesting question by a non-ADHD husband (who also happens to be a therapist) - "All couples experience anger - so how do you tell anger that is related to ADHD apart from normal anger?"  Great question!

Undiagnosed ADHD Can Make You Angry!

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/30/2012.

A woman with ADHD talks about the shame and remorse she feels about her childhood ADHD.

Not Getting Enough Sex in Your ADHD Marriage?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/10/2012.

Have you ever wondered what’s a “normal” sex life?  There is so much buzz around the topic of sex in the forums right now, I think it’s time to write about sex – what might be going on if you’re having too little…and then I’ll write about getting away from porn and sex addiction in another post.

9 Tips for When Non-ADHD Spouses Just Can’t Cope Anymore

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 01/04/2012.

Some days you just don’t have the energy to cope with your partner’s ADHD symptoms any more.  What can you do?  Here are nine tips to help you survive…

Are ADHD People Lazy?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/15/2011.

Ned Hallowell likes to talk about the "moral diagnosis" of ADHD - the idea that those with ADHD are lazy or ill-willed.  The 'moral diagnosis' was what people used to turn to when they didn't know as much about ADHD as we do now.  Yet the idea that an ADHD spouse is 'lazy' is amazingly persistent.  How to get at that?

Join the Conversation Around ADHD Marriage and Anger

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/17/2011.

Every once in a while there is a forum discussion happening that is so relevant for so many readers that I note it in my blog and direct people to it.  We have one going on right now about anger and grief that I think is worth your time to read.  And I’ll add a few of my thoughts here:

Taking Responsibility for My Error

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/20/2011.

Sometimes we all need to eat crow – and right now the person who needs to do that is me.  I am deeply embarrassed, one could say mortified, that I published that Simora is the same person as Red Haired Witch, Miss Behavin, Crazy Dave, Rene and Annoyedatlies.  However, she isn’t that person (the other user names are, indeed, all the same person, but they are not Simora).

Are All With ADHD the Same?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 03/31/2011.

There is some conversation going on right now in the forums questioning whether it is appropriate to make generalizations about people with ADHD.  One person suggests this is insulting or hurtful to group those with ADHD together.  Another poster asks:  ‘if "they" (people with ADHD) are all so completely different, why do we keep hearing the same behaviors (forgetting, interrupting, not handling money well, etc.) coming up over and over?’  I would like to respond to this question in the blog, rather than in the forums.

Your Way

Submitted by arwen on 07/20/2010.

One of the things that I have heard and seen time and time again from many people with ADHD is that there's no point in their trying to meet expectations, because they will always fail. My ADHD husband used to frequently tell me this.  And I understand the feeling.  I've been through that experience myself, even though I don't have ADHD.  I have felt the despair and the sense of just being completely beaten down by what other people do with ease.

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