Anger, Frustration & ADHD

The Cuddle Rule

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 10/07/2020.

This simple strategy can help couples repair from scritchy times.

Stress Highlights Our Differences – For Better or Worse

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 03/31/2020.

Stress exaggerates our normal tendencies.  When one of you has ADHD and the other one doesn’t that can be a problem... or a blessing.  

How to Grieve for the Relationship You Didn't Get

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 02/01/2019.

In this post, Melissa writes about: the gap between the amazing relationship you thought you were signing up for, and the relationship you actually got with adult ADHD in the mix; why it’s so important to grieve about the loss of your romantic dreams; and how to do it.

My Partner is a Great Guy, but Gets Really Angry Fast

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 11/14/2018.

A struggling couple asks what ADHD has to do with one man's quick rages.  His partner writes 'He can be a lovely person but it doesn't take much to make him snap , in particular with me.'  Alcohol makes it worse.  Melissa explores what could be going on, how it's related to ADHD, and how to respond.

How Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Impacts Non-ADHD Partners

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 02/07/2018.

Biologically-based sensitivity to criticism and rejection impacts some with ADHD...it also impacts their partners

Tips for Becoming Independent of Parent/Child Dynamics

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/31/2017.

Parent/Child is hard to get out of, but you must do so to thrive.  These tips can help you begin.

7 Dangerous Myths About Anger and ADHD

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 08/01/2017.

Anger often invades ADHD relationships, and couples may compound their pain and feed that anger by falling victim to these common myths.

Why Isn't My Non-ADHD Partner Supportive of My ADHD Therapy?

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 06/19/2017.

It can be confusing when ADHD partners start learning more about ADHD and are met with a lukewarm reception from a spouse.  What's going on?

Going on the Defensive, Making Excuses and Denying Fault During a Fight

Submitted by Katie in ADHDland on 05/16/2017.

Does the ADHD partner in your relationship become defensive, offer excuses and deny wrongdoing when legitimate grievances are raised? Here are some reasons why this could be happening and some tips on how they can be addressed.  

6 Reasons Your ADHD Partner May Not Lead…and What To Do About It

Submitted by MelissaOrlov on 04/06/2017.

Tired of always leading the show?  Here’s what's going on and how to connect, anyway.

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