Submitted by jay23 on 03/16/2015.
I have been single for 3 years and during this time I have been involved in 4 relationships. Every relationship has a common theem I will work very hard to get the girl of my dream but as time goes by (4 to 6 months) I will get board with the relationship and brake up.
I was diagnosed with ADHD 5 years ago and take meds but no counseling.
I am trying to see if this is related to ADHD or my past marriage (a very bad marriage)
Thanks
Jay
I think you are fine...Just confused...
Submitted by c ur self on
Maybe this will help your perspective...
First a man is only single once....After that he is either Married, Separated, Divorced, Widowed or Dead....
Secondly...What is a girl of your dreams like?
While you are dating these girls, are you respecting them and being a gentlemen and keeping your hands to yourself?
Or are you living like you are married to them?
Maybe you are fine and are just confused about what constitutes the good life!
Like a good friend of mine told me once..."We miss out on Living the Good Life...because of our efforts to Live the Good Life"
Something to ponder...:) I hope all things come's into focus for you....
C
Probably ADHD...
Submitted by jenna-ADD on
My ex ghosted me after three months. Simply disappeared. I should've seen the warning sign that he was almost 40 and had only one long term relationship and almost no friends. He was never married.
I'm hoping you at least broke up with them in a decent way and let them know. My breakup was abrupt... he was literally telling me a week before how much he loved me and wanted me to meet his parents and then was gone. Still devastated.
Could be.....
Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
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am trying to see if this is related to ADHD or my past marriage (a very bad marriage)
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Tell us more...
1. Do you first have the girl on a pedestal, but then when you see her human flaws you become disinterested?
2. Are you mainly attracted to looks/body without paying attention to personality or shared interests?
3. What are the "shared interests" that you have with each girl?
4. Do you find yourself less-interested after the challenge of getting them into bed?
5. Do you lose interest once they discover your imperfections?
6. Do you lose interest once they have "expectations" from you?
1. Yes
Submitted by jay23 on
1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Nothings
4. YEs
5. Yes
6. Yes
Jay
Ok.....after looking over your own answers.....
Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
After looking over your own answers, what can you conclude?
Can you see that you've been exposing yourself to shallow relationships?
You aren't looking beyond "skin deep".
Try this.....
1) Look for a woman who has similar interests and values that you admire.
2) build a friendship first....don't first pursue a romantic relationship.
3) Obviously, don't "go for sex" for a while...at least not until you have developed a deep interest and respect.
4) Get used to doing things for her.
5) obviously, you have to find the person attractive, but don't look for "drop dead beauty" "hot body"
What are your interests.
I love this simple list of
Submitted by kellyj on
I love this simple list of questions. The only thing missing here (potentially?) is "new relationship hyper-focus mode" ....but as a general list of questions for any guy ( ADHD or not )...this really gets right down to the lowest common denominator in a hurry. Good job nailing this.
J