Submitted by Happytina on 05/11/2016.
Dear all,
NICE AND HAPPY to JOIN THIS FORUM.
I WOULD LIKE TO ASK IF SOMEONE KNOW THIS SITUATION: Husband with ADHD and wife HSP. What to do? What works? I am new in this FORUM and I have just discovered it.
Thank You so much.
Hi Happytina, welcome to the forum....
Submitted by c ur self on
You will need to manage your life so as not to be forced to tolerate actions that over stimulate you emotionally. I can't judge what your spouse is like...But, if he is a thrill seeking type, chaotic and disorganized you will need to separate yourself to some degree from certain activities he may seek for you to participate in....
You know your self, and it is much better to maintain an environment that does not trigger negitive emotions when sharing with your husband....If he is a controlling type (just guessing) he probably want be very sensitive to your sensitivity to certain things, (worse case he may even thrive on what you abhor) and even say you are making it up....(I hope not, but you didn't say) So just communicate what you can tolerate, and don't get drug into arguments about it or coaxed into situations that you know going into the results will be a bad for you and ultimately bad for the relationship....
When two people have very little commonality especially when it pertains to Physiological and emotional make up, in order to have peaceful lives, there must be boundaries and respect. Because in these cases we may not be able to function like many others, or like we would desire...Not and keep our sanity. It's all about understanding and accepting one another and your differences....
Blessings
C
Hsp wife and adhd husband
Submitted by carenann on
I'm very interested in hearing more about this as well.