Submitted by add on 02/03/2014.
I put up with my husband verbal abuse for over 27yrs. I always hoped things would get better but he never changed. He wasn't a partner or parent. Couldn't see my side in anything or listen to how I felt. In the end, after 25yrs he walked out one morning and left. Never said much to the kids even. He just easily went on living his life where all he has to do is work but I have to be the one to constantly be the sole support to our ADD/depressed son. Very little contact to his children and now he can't understand why they would be upset at him. He is now fighting me for the house. If I could do it all over again I never would have stayed that long. It basically robbed me of many happy years.
I'm so very sorry
Submitted by frustratedwife on
I'm so very sorry and I feel your pain. I was in a 19 year marriage (to a man with addictions) and I look back and wonder what took me so long to leave. I feel like I wasted so much of my time being miserable. I guess i didn't learn much because now I'm in a 7 year marriage to a man with ADHD. I just recently started to learn about ADHD and this forum has been helpful.
Thanks for the support
Submitted by add on
Thanks Laurie for your response. Yeah, it is the most awful feeling. Just like you were thrown off a cliff. It's been 3 1/2 yrs for me and still so painful. And after they leave you find more about how they really acted while you were married (mine traveled). Never did I think my husband was unfaithful in the marriage until I found out about the affair by a fluke and then I started looking back and waking up. To get no support for years and have nothing but pain and frustration and then have it end like that is really painful. We didn't know we were dealing with ADD so that is so upsetting, too. For him to have so little involvement with his kids, especially after he left, makes me so sick that I would have lived with someone like that. Of course, that is how he was when he was in the house, too. I hope you can get support from this forum and find piece in your marriage.