I can literally be sitting here right next to wife and ask her a question and I swear she never hears what I said. Instead of her saying " can you repeat that" she answers back or swears i never said what I said.
She never tells me what I'm supposed to know no matter how important it is. Always last minute with everything. She has no motivation since she got layed off from her job and just sits in the house daily in her phone playing games on it. In my mind you could be using this time to look for a job. When I say something about it she gets offended and says "you don't know what I'm doing" when clearly I can see what your doing which is nothing! Wasting time and getting on my nerves so bad I'm at the point where I just have nothing to say anymore.
I cannot motivate her at all and really don't want to entertain her nonsense anymore. Sometimes you have to motivate yourself! Anyone have any suggestions for me?
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Submitted by kosty on
I'm sorry that you are frustrated with her not listening. My husband is the same way with not listening.
I told him three times the other day , which credit card I wanted him to use when he wanted to pay for something, he ended up using the wrong card, I was so furious when I saw that he used the wrong credit card, in my mind I started calling him names, then realized hey this is not his fault, it the ADHD, yes he needs to make more of an effort to listen, but then said ok how bad is it just pay what you can on the credit card that he used, and then remove the card from his wallet that I don't want him to use as it is to confusing for him, which one to use.
I joined the non-adhd group, so hopefully I can get some suggestions on how to talk to him about listening more, but he gets upset too.