I just saw this posted on Facebook.
The most important lesson I've learned over this past year is don't let anyone make you cruel. No matter how badly you want to give the world a taste of its own bitter medicine, it's never worth losing yourself.
I also know the wisdom of "You teach the world how to treat you."
The world can be crazy and difficult and none of us is perfect. Even if you balanced on the duty/right line in the BEST way you could, sometimes we beat ourselves up for not doing it BETTER. I don't like myself even while knowing I did the BEST I could....I really did give it 150%. Even in that, I blame myself for giving too much. I lost my self.
So, the first steps in changing something is to see it clearly. That is what I am doing most often these days....is seeing things, accepting things as they are (not as I wish they were) and accepting that I and the world are not perfect. I am not the Master of the Universe. Friends and family are not perfect. I am not perfect. I wish everyone a peace-filled holiday and hope we remember that we are not put here to be perfect by our or other's standards. I vow to myself to be grateful and forgiving - especially to myself. And to balance my life with good and supportive people and give myself a break. Happy Holidays!
It is very hard not to be
Submitted by barneyarff on
It is very hard not to be cruel some days. This is one of them. Mostly I'm cruel because I'm so emotionally hurt. I want to be cruel to my son and husband because they are so inept. They don't think things through and keep communication lines open.
Never even have I taught my children to be anything but extremely responsible towards animals. This is a deal breaker for me. Then my son neglects his pets.
And my husband (yes, we are separated so I know the silliness of me having any hope) finds the ONE THING that will set me off. He left to see his Mom out of town without securing that my son will take care of the animals.
Seriously, I'd think they had a meeting on how to "get that bitchy old lady to react and be upset so we can have a party on her little hurt feelings" except they aren't that organized.
ARGH!!!!!!!
Merry Christmas Jenna!
Submitted by c ur self on
Doing my BEST...Balancing on the duty/ right line, Failing and blaming myself, working harder, trying harder, still not reaching all my goals....This was me also, and still is, but, with one huge difference....One day I realized that I wasn't ever suppose to be able to always be right (human flesh).. And the good news was, the ultimate price has been paid, so that my failings (sin) wouldn't count against me....So in him, I found freedom from failings, my sin... As a matter of fact, there are a couple of Holidays that most of the world celebrates to commemorate the greatest gift given to mankind...One of those just happen's to be tomorrow in my part of the world....
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Jenna,
Submitted by RobertG on
Jenna,
Awesome, that's also what I'm trying to learn the past year and into the new year. Listening to Eckart Tolle I'm trying to learn if I can either accept, change or avoid a situation and not waste any energy in resisting situations. That's been very hard (if not impossible) without ADHD meds and since I started taking them I hope I can improve. Still coping with perfectionism and self criticism and how this is affected by limiting beliefs.
When I visited the US I bought a bookmark in Georgia with a Booker T. Washington quote. With my ADHD meds, ADHD Mindfulness Exercise Diet Sleep, therapy and self education I'm now finally able to live up to it and still have time left to raise my kids with these same values:
I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him.
My new challenge is people (including friends, family and therapists) denying my ADHD by saying it's only an act of willpower to overcome it.