Dual ADHD marriage

Would love to know how many of you are in a dual ADHD marriage. My husband and I both have ADHD, we're best friends and have been married for 34 years and would never leave each other.

I was diagnosed after we were married, he was diagnosed as a child but I did not know he had ADHD until several years after we were married. I have an ongoing journey since the day I found out. He is in denial that his ADHD affects his life and my life.

We have fallen into the parent-child dynamic and I'm trying to reverse that. I've been reading her book the ADHD effect on marriage. I'm thinking about asking him to listen to it as well to open the conversation.

Would love to know what others thought of that and what others have done that have fallen into this situation as well that both have ADHD.