My now ex had a habit of venting every negative thing about me, real or exaggerated, to her online/ real life friends. She would use their backing her side to bolster her arguments with me and try to prove I'm 100% the problem. I told her that as her friend, they aren't going to call her out wen she is wrong. She disagreed and said that since they were her friends, they would be honest and tell her is she was being a jerk. I brought this up to my therapist, who responded with a laugh and said, "If our friends called us out in those situation, they probably wouldn't be our friends for long". Don't get me wrong, I know friends will be honest, but like any relationship, they know when not to be blunt and have some tact. I asked a few others their opinions and was met with the same response-no, friends won't tell you you're wrong,namely when it's a fight with a spouse they are not friends with.
so I guess what I'm asking is, which side do you agree with?
You are right.
Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
Not only would her friends not call her out, but likely she isn't telling them the whole story anyway. She is likely telling a biased story that makes her sound right.
That's true. In pretty quick
Submitted by Mikeryan1 on
That's true. In pretty quick to take my share of the blame, but after years of me being the issue, she just no longer sees her self as wrong, and uses her friends' opinions to back her up. It's just rough that I'm taking steps like medication and therapy to better myself and she is just reinforcing her issues