Hey all,

Just joined today.  Came to the realization that my ADHD (which was diagnosed last year) has been a huge issue in how I've handled arguments and so many other aspects of my marriage and now we are at a point where we are separated.  Our situation is that we co-signed a lease together on a little studio apartment and one of us spends a week at the apartment while the other is at home with the kids, and then we swap the next week.

This is week 2 of this and I've been at home with the kids struggling quite a bit.  Communication is minimal, limited to essential and kid related communication.  She scheduled a new Marriage Counselor for us, which I was thrilled to see, but I've also heard that often, unless the counselor has experience working with couples where ADHD is involved, it will usually just not work out well.

I want to be a better man for myself, my children, and my wife because they are my world, and it's so hard to feel so helpless right now.  I don't want to be that husband that doesn't take action and gives up something so amazing and incredible.

Any and all advice as we work through this part of our journey would be amazing.