Same issues as usual were raised, things that I have been telling him have been getting worse: forgetting things, time management, organization and communication. Our marriage has been horrible, I am miserable. These things plus his negative attitude have taken a major toll but he had told me that - despite my concerns that it would affect his work as well - things were find at work and his job was safe. It wasn’t. He knew for a while and he lied.
I am tired. Exhausted.
I feel for you Julia....
Submitted by c ur self on
They live in a Fairy Tail World....And sadly, I'm afraid, we often make it easy for them to abide there...
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He lost his job again
Submitted by Whatisupwithhim on
I totally get you and feeling exhausted. It wasn't until I found a good therapist for me that I began to get better. Marriage to any one with mental illness or addictions is exhausting. I joined Al Anon under the guise that my husband's ADHD was like he was an alcoholic. That group was the start of my getting stronger in myself and the marriage. I also began to think about how he acted. He didn't choose the crazy wiring in his head, he hates it too. Sometimes he lies because he is embarrassed and ashamed of himself. No one would choose to look so normal yet have trouble with planning, completing stuff and on and on. As I took this attitude towards him that helped with my patience and gave me actual love for him. He in returned seemed to soak up my new attitude. A win win!
It also helps to run away with yourself, and/or a friend, for a fun mental health day and laugh!