I was diagnosed with ADD as a child they told me when I turned 15 that I had to learn how to deal with it and I thought I did. I have been married now for 8 years and I thought everything was great sure me and my wife had are problems but it was not till I deployed were I am currently at that I found out she was thinking about divorce because she could not take the way I have been acting. I look back at the things I have done ie being distracted when she was trying to have a real conversation, not being involved in what she is into, Always thinking about what I wanted to do, irratating her when we are around friends and I say things that are inappropriate or out of line. At first I though I was going crazy and did not know why I acted like that, until she told me that she thinks my ADD has played a big part into are relationship. I want to change and be better for her but I cannot get meds out here. What can I do?
Heading down a road I dont want to go!
Submitted by Brandon on 02/08/2011.
Treatment
Submitted by js on
Sorry to hear about your challenges. The first thing to do is to get treatment: counseling and medication if it is a possibility. This will help you to focus, listen, and be less impulsive. Also, you should acknowledge the struggles with your wife--validate her comments. Tell her you understand her frustrations and are willing to work to make your marriage better.
Good luck.