I need help.

I believe that my partner has undiagnosed ADD; the classic symptoms are there, but there is something more hurtful going on.

While I'm dealing with classic ADD symptoms, my partner has developed defense mechanisms that protect against the natural failures associated with ADD...

Most prevalent defense mechanisms are the willingness to lay blame elsewhere when things go wrong...and to turn the tables on me when I bring up an issue that involves ADD.

I'm also dealing with denial in my partner.

Can my marriage be saved? If so, what can I do? How do I get my partner to see that I'm not the cause of all that's wrong in our home? (I have my own flaws but the difference between us is that I own them, admit them and try to work on them daily...that's 100% missing in my partner).

Please help me...thank you