I have been with my partner now for over two years. He has been diagnosed with ADHD since he was a child. He has the hyperactivity part but I've seen this side slow down with him dramatically. I recently walked away from our relationship. He seems to always put everything and everybody else before myself and my son. In the first year I had him calling me names (his never been physically abusive) when he gets frustrated with me, he also tends to go through these really high periods where he is happy and fine and we go well through these periods (I should mention his not on any medication or therapy) and then he somehow gets down in the dumps and becomes very distant and shuts off from me and it makes me feel not loved at all. When I ask him to spend time with me he will do so but with a extremely passive aggressive attitude. If I bring up something in a calm non judgemental manner I get stonewalled by him for a few days as punishment and he is a terrible communicator tends to forget to tell me things which will generally important. He has cancelled our wedding twice now because his scared and I had enough of been let down so we had a reasonable fight and I went down to the beach to cool off and came back to our house and he had taken all of his stuff emptied the house from all of his stuff this is the first time his ever done this and it hurt me extremely badly and broke my trust with him. I also found out he had been bad mouthing me to his mates behind my mates and they had started attacking me and stalking me and threatening me and he just stood there and wouldn't stand up for me at all. It's been a horrible two years. So I left and returned back to my home state but now I have him calling every night and wanting me back and I found out he has taken himself to the doctors and has been referred to a specialist for ADHD to see what is suitable for him medication and or therapy. I honestly don't know what to think or whether this is all a big trap, he is a good lier as well I've caught him out several times it's destroyed our trust.
Honestly don’t know what to do
Submitted by Charlie777 on 05/14/2020.
Charlie
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
With the highs and lows you are describing, he could have a comorbid disorder like Bipolar.
Its funny you say that. I had
Submitted by Charlie777 on
Its funny you say that. I had a friend say the exact same thing. Can you have bipolar and ADHD together as a mix?? He was fine at the start and then after a year it came out of the woodwork and towards the end it was ruining my sanity.
Charlie777
Submitted by c ur self on
People rarely make any type permanent changes in their living of life using the same thinking that molded their actions to begin with...I suggest you make your decision to go back to him solely on the person you left....Never allow your life to be negatively impacted by a carnal promise, when there is no real power for sustained change....There is a couple of things that can foster real change...Missing a human who was filling your needs isn't one of them....
Be wise....
c
Be careful. My husband did
Submitted by boredandignored on
Be careful. My husband did this to me. He asked for a separation after I had our second child stating he was "unhappy" in the marriage. We had a lot of contention because he had dropped the ball, not gotten a job during the summer, caused a lot of stress due to his inability to plan and provide and had not been getting along at all. He asked for a divorce, I told him to leave. We have two kids together. 3 months into our separation he starts to come aroudn more, wants to be in the house with me more, and then in January he asked me to take him back as I was on my way out to a date with another man. He knew about this date ahead of time. At first I wasn't going to go and we hada really long talk where he claimed he was going to change, he had been depressed, he was going to be a better partner to me. That lasted... all of a month? Until he was right back to his old ways. We've been together for 13 years and he is still doing the same old crap. So, I warn you, he may be doing this to manipulate you as one last final attempt to get you back. If he means it, he'll show you.