I'm not sure if I even really want to know the answer to this... I guess I'm afraid I already do...
The self-centeredness, all the running around, projects taking priority, poor communication, the lack of connection - this is why our marriage ended. I haven't had any contact with him for the last couple weeks, and this time has been so hard for me. As difficult as it was, and as much as I know that it's probably for the best (for me - and him too I geuss) that it's over between us, I miss his terribly and love him and it's so hard... I wonder, does he miss me?
I didn't feel loved in the relationship - not properly - not as much as I wanted or had experienced in the past. But, he insisted he did love me, and I did feel it from him (in his way.) So, I suppose I shouldn't be surprised by wondering whether or not he thinks about me/misses me at all. It's a continuation of the central problem our marriage faced. But, what do you all think? Do they miss us when it's over? Or do they just run and run and get into their projects and not think much about it at all.
Shoot me straight. I can take it.
I don't think my husband
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
I don't think my husband misses me. He told his brother recently that he wants to spend more time with me but doesn't feel welcome in our home, but I don't believe him (i.e., I think he was lying or in denial to save face), because these statements are contradicted by behavior: he never calls me, never emails me, when I call him he shows no interest in me, etc., etc.
When H and I separated, I wondered the same..
Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
Twice H and I separated. The first time, he would call me rather often to yell at me. Then his brother told him to stop talking to me period, so I wondered what he was thinking. H had a lot of distractions, so he probably was able to push aside any feelings.
The second time he was alone and was VERY lonely. He didn't call for over 2 months. It was very hard. When he finally did call, he confessed as to how lonely he was.
I think a lot depends on how much your H has going on in his life to distract him.
thanks
Submitted by kotf on
Thanks for your feedback.
Yeah... he has a lot to distract him. And, I haven't heard from him. I don't think he's really missing me....
At least it gives me more incentive to try to move on as well...
After I divorce my ADD
Submitted by Lynnw on
After I divorce my ADD husband, he stayed away for a few months, then started calling and visiting me and the kids a lot. We are still friends, but it's been 10 years, and he hasn't moved on. He still visits me a lot (the kids have moved out), still has a lot of his junk here (he rented a room in someone's house, so he has no where to move his junk to). He even still tells people he works with that I'm his wife (I wish he wouldn't do that) .But on the other hand, he still acts like he has no interest in me (just like when we were married).. I don't call or seek him out or try in any way to be part of his life, yet he's determined to stay in my life. I think he's in complete denial that we are divorced.