My therapist has just (un-officially) diagnosed my husband as having ADHD. She recognized the signs because her husband has it.
How do I tell him about this diagnosis without hurting his feelings or making him feel like we were ganging up on him in my last therapy session?
I love him, but I think he needs to know why he does what he does so we can start working on dealing with the issues.
YOU Can't
Submitted by lonelyspouse on
If your husband is anything like mine, YOU can't tell him. He will hear it as blame and criticism, and then he will proceed to tell you what is wrong with you. Can he go with you to a session with your therapist where she can somehow broach the subject with a "let's work together to make things better for both of you" approach?
The problem is that unless your husband is open to truly working on your relationship, he will see this as an attempt to blame him for your unhappiness and relationship issues.