Submitted by bowlofpetunias on 11/21/2018.
My wife came by my workplace for lunch today. While we were eating, she asked me about a coworker who left her position yesterday: "Did [manager] drive her out too?"
Yes, just what I need, to have the manager who is making things difficult hear what I have told my wife about the situation. Fortunately, only the person serving the lunch as there at the time. I pointed the problem out to my wife and she apologized for "not thinking."
Background: This guy regularly chewed out a previous coworker in front of us during weekly meetings and she wound up leaving to "spend more time with her family." Then he hired someone he knew to replace her.
It is risky confiding info to an ADHDer
Submitted by Will It Get Better on
After the first five years of marriage and many incidents where private issues I'd shared with my wife were parroted back to me by mere acquaintances of my wife a week or so later I decided I could only confide things to my wife that I was willing to have 'published'. Many times previously I'd told my wife how these incidents hurt me and made it difficult for me to be open with her. She'd usually try to deflect and say the incident did not happen or when confronted with a particularly blatant example she'd apologize and say she'd think before relating such things about our marriage. Within days she'd 'forget' and continue her usual ways. Hence my change in policy.
It was not for another 18 years until my wife was diagnosed with ADHD (after our teenage son was diagnosed). My wife still denies that the above is an ADHD symptom despite the literature regarding impulse control. Denial can be very strong.