Thursday after work i came home sick as a dog... Shaking chills, terrible migraine, fatigue, weakness, muscle cramps, etc. DH was amazing, took care of me, practically waited on me hand and foot. Was really the super sweet man i married.
I called out of work friday morning because i wasnt feeling up to going in. I still had a migraine that i couldnt break and now was having sweats, terrible neck and back pain and nausea vomiting. First he got angry that i called out in the am and not the night before. Told me i didnt listen to him. After that rant and rave was interrupted by the electrician coming. When he left, all he could talk about for hours was how this guy gave him no respect, didnt want to do any work, doesnt know what he's doing, etc. and then that rant turned into the usual no one respects him, esp me and my family, and ripping into the typical stuff that happened months ago that should have been resolved with all the previous rants, but that he just can't forget...meanwhile im in tears in bed trying to just have some peace because the headache i had was so severe i was debating going to the ER (which he knew)... And still he continued to carry on like a child...he then proceded to spend all day and night reading about electricity, wiring, outlets, etc. watching you tube videos into the wee morning hours...
today thinking back on everything, my body still feels drained... I never wake up feeling refreshed, im tired all the time... Now i have minimal appetite... Prior to this all even happening he was in the process of submitting paperwork for his new job- and of course he cant read anything himself, needs to get through it asap and makes me check everything- well it looked fine to me but first they had some missing pages that never scanned in (which he did, not me) and then some missing lines (which i thought could be left blank, but they wanted them filled in)... So for two to three days at work he would stress me out with a phone call that something was wrong again and make me anxious...this probably led me up to feeling so terrible thursday...
when hes great, hes amazing... When hes off, hes intolerable...and lately there have been more intolerable episodes then good...
Get well soon
Submitted by Dipity on
Same old same old
Submitted by Sandra Werdna on
Hi,
I am a 33 year old male with ADHD. Diagnosed but unmedicated as a child and re diagnosed at 30 and medicated now.
Your story sounds completely typical of the shit I used to pull with a lovely ex girlfriend of 5 years. Is he diagnosed and in treatment? Honestly if he's not willing to do this and throw himself into addressing HIS issues with the world. No one else's... I'd run if you can. I'm not sure of your situation but he sounds like an emotionally retarted Narcissist. I say this as I was the exact same in 2 five year relationships that eventually led me to my current position. I'm not good for women. I turn eventually and revert back from the charming sweetheart to the selfish turd. I'm a moving vortex that sucks all the life out of a partner.
if he's not treating you well and has no intention on FOLLOW THROUGH of treatment ect...
Run
Thanks guys-
Submitted by Xoliswthrtox on
Thanks guys-
its hard because like i said when he's on point, he's really on point... Thoughtful, compassionate, caring, etc. But when he's off, he is just unable to be dealt with...he's yelling, screaming, revisiting past issues, demeaning, accusing... I mean verbally abusive at times...and i know, or at least i think i know, that he really does love me... Ive seen him break down in tears sobbing that he's sick and im the best thing that has ever happened to him... Unless its just his master manipulation, but i like to think he asked me to marry him because he does love me...
what's even harder to stomach is the fact that i know i love him, but i feel myself slowly falling out of love with him... Everytime he gets all wound up which inevitably ends with me feeling physically ill or in tears, i just lose a piece of that attraction... And question if i can deal with weekly outbursts like this for the rest of my life...
we are in therapy, but it isnt going anywhere partially because ot started as marriage counseling but evolved more into addressing his issues, which made him uncomfortable... He says that i have plenty of issues that i could talk about but its always about him...so he hasnt been as forthcoming to the therapist... I feel like we walk in every week with this fake smile...or at least just me...and i cant throw him under the bus in there because at the end of the session, i have to go home with him! And boy i made the mistake of doing that once....
How and when did you become self-aware?
Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
Just curious.