I need help. I'm the non-ADHD wife married to an ADHD husband. I have to get out of the marriage. Things are too far gone for repair, he says he's trying but nothing really changes. Mentally, I'm a wreck. Completely burned out and still expected to keep things going. I've been hospitalized three days a few years ago for suicidal depression and last December I made an attempt. I am seeing a therapist who keeps telling me that "me time" is a necessity for me. I'm taking as much as I can but its not enough. Even when things are going all right, I can't enjoy them. The moment I start, he does something to ruin it. Getting out is the only option but I'm trapped by circumstance. Neither of us have anywhere else to go and neither of us can afford to take care of the kids and house by ourselves. I am not on speaking terms with my family and my friends don't even live in the same country. The house is a disaster, so selling it will be horribly difficult. We'd be lucky to break even.
Saving money is pretty much impossible; we are living paycheque to paycheque and still needing to go to the food bank to be able to feed the children. I've tried accessing the social programs that my province has but they are overloaded and don't consider me someone that falls in their jurisdiction. As long as my husband isn't beating me, they can't/won't help. None of the counselling services I've been able to get a hold of are familiar with ADHD. The one that people keep referring me to told me point blank that they can't help me. Apparently being driven crazy by someone with ADHD isn't abuse. All the other services have insane waiting lists. And I'm not sure when I'll fall off the edge again.
I'm really at a loss at what to do.
Speaking of ABUSE as you make mention of...
Submitted by renoir911 on
Yeap, you and I and so many others are loosing their minds not just due to the many problems severe ADDers bring to your life, BUT ESPECIALLY due to the fact that they will make YOU feel like you are the criminal, the ABUSIVE one, in fact, they will turn their whole collection of problems onto you as if you are the one with a mental disorder. That's how I am made to feel. That why I am getting the help I now need. It is unfair that we cannot scream ABUSE because this is exactly what medical professionals have told me I am living under. One even asked me if I have a martyr complex for staying! Personally speaking, I am at the lowest I have ever been in my entire life. I am faced with something that has no understanding other then for itself. I am faced with something that HAS NO COMPASSION for the state it has put me in today. There ought to be laws against that. I am doing better and making improvements for me through a remarkable lady counselling me. That's all I can do. I remain hopeful that my spouse will at the very least give meds a try. Perhaps that's asking for too much of something that has no compassion or understanding of what it does to it's victims. I am speaking of the ADD condition of course. The victims are you, I, others, but most importantly, the person with the condition. They are victims too. But they will tell others that it is you who victimize them! Catch 22.
Please don't lump all of us
Submitted by Miss Behaven on
Please don't lump all of us together.
attempts
Submitted by metooo on
I've already started two threads about this. I made two attempts...one in September and another in November. Fortunately I wasn't placed in the psych ward. My counselor bailed me out the second time. I came here tonight to hopefully find some sanity and maybe support in that we can be pushed too far. I'm sorry it's been so tough for you.