Today I found out that my car is only missing the transmission oil for it to be ready for me,his friend from in his work came to my business place to wait for him this morning and told me that,Ha!!! I thought he told me last time that the car needed a next part in the transmission that he forgot to put in, and that he had to drop the box again and I may have to wait a next couple of weeks for it,And all this time the car is almost finished and he is procrastinating it,What the hell is he doing??? I am suffering for it !!!my hands hurts me with the grocery bags!! I run a food business and he is not making my work any easier by playing up in my head like how his head is playing him! I am sooo frustrated right now!! urggg!!! lies lies lies,I am an independent woman and he hates that,so he uses the car to beat me up imagine that "my own car"
My car!! Where is my car???
Submitted by lovehurtsalotwi... on 04/24/2012.
still,
Submitted by lovehurtsalotwi... on
Still no car!!!! he is a very envious man,and I am beginning to wonder what is it makes him so envious of me, when he should be proud that I am a very stable person and financially stabled as well,ha! !!the man that I took in with nothing and helped him,gave him my car to drive and feed him,clothed,cooked,paid all the bills, run the show, did everything for 6 months then what did he do???!! bam!!! left when I saved 20 thousand dollars in the bank for him and got his own apartment,well,I am glad he did b/c I was not prepared for him to interfere with my humble stable family,then he drove the freaking car all over town and mashed up the transmission.well thank god he is mechanically inclined,else his A** was mines to claim!! well, he is fixing it, but then 2 months later still no blasted car!!! urggggg!!! he procrastinates thinking, he has a grip on me as long as the car stays within his reach! so true!! but that doesn't mean he has to suffer me this bad..no matter what grip he thinks he has on me that have nothing to do with knowing how bad I need that car b/c it is costing me daily to pay transportation for the up keep of my business.He just have no concern over NOTHING!!
lovehurts.
it is understood,
Submitted by lovehurtsalotwi... on
It is understood as to why I haven't gotten back the car as yet!! he is holding back the car b/c he thinks I would go out and cheat,or maybe free up myself with my friends etc,he is very dominating and jealous,but also so that I would have to be at his crutch for him to help me go and get my stuff for my business,I mean who does things like that? this is beyond mental madness!! I have soo many reasons to leave him now, and they just keep piling up!!! I have tried so hard to make it work by working on my own flaws, but if his flaws is still around then mines would show back up!! It's very hard to hear someone cutting you down with an ax and just stay there and take it!! I have to tell him what I am thinking also, or feel, and the truth tends to make him self unworthy, and that tends to bring loads of resentment between us.My car has not arrived yet!! it's finish with just about 40 min works of touching up, but still he holds it back,so I would have to stoop down to his level until I receive what belongs to me!! I am losing patience,I don't know how to get back my car now!! I don't know if he would bring it back in one piece,last night we had a nasty fight and I am home by my place and he is at his apartment I think?
lovehurts.
Tough even for a friend
Submitted by Karinda on
Dear Lovehurts
(I meant to reply to your latest post, but ended up here.)You seem so brave, but I still feel you should leave this man. You are Young, kind, have kids and there is a brighter future waiting for you.
Dont know if you remember me, I had à relation with a man with adhd. He treated me like à princess one day, the next I didn't exist for him.
Today We are friends, but the "friendship" he offers is all about his needs, as always. He was never abusive, but the words "thanks" and "forgive me" are impossible for him to say.
I feel so sorry for him - and for myself. I know i have been a very good friend.
One of his very few.
You deserve better.
Karinda,thanks
Submitted by lovehurtsalotwi... on
Thank you ,you are right!! I have known it all along but underneath my bravery I am soo scared,I have been trying to leave ,but he is holding my car hostage! I know that sounds like an excuse, but it is the truth,Today I realized something,he is trying to scare me and it is working.Last night we had a big fight and he was moving as if he would do something bad to my car! trust me if I was to tell you that it is my first car and how hard I work at getting one.My both uncles helped me put up to buy the car as well as myself working long hours and saving hard making a lot of sacrifices.
I am soo scared,he texted me just 10 Minutes ago telling me that he would tell me what happen!! when I tried back calling to find out his cause of threat he switch off the cell phone.I am being abused mentally by him in so many different angles.Last night after our big fight he was dropping me home,but that hour which was 12:30 am in the morning had some male prostitutes dressed up like females,instead of turning to the nearest corner to get home by him,he turned the car around and proceeded into the prostitutes direction.I am beginning to think one out of two reasons he did that,maybe to get me upset or maybe to engage into activities with the prostitutes,I am righting this and sobbing uncontrollably.I have to leave but the state he have me in he is in control.
lovehurts.
To me it seems as you are not
Submitted by Karinda on
To me it seems as you are not ready to jump yet, even though you know it's the only thing to do.
The business with your car, is it that important?
do you have any friends to turn to? Or some professional councelor?
Hugs.
Karinda,
Submitted by lovehurtsalotwi... on
yes my car is very important to me that's what runs my finances stable,believe it or not that is my bread and butter,but he continues to hold my car hostage and still tries to put it off all the time so I would run to him for the use of his car,and that I would not leave him b/c he know's that I am on my way with moving on without him,well,I could not have waited since he dressed up in a charming way and went out without me,seems like he had a hot date!! well good for him!! and her!!! my sorrows would be her's now!!Today I have left him and I am not going back this is too much for me to bear,we have been in and out the relationship constantly,well that was b/c he was promising to make change,but still no change.
a promise is a comfort to a fool,I have been that fool!!
thanks for replying
lovehurts.
finally my car is back in my yard!!!
Submitted by lovehurtsalotwi... on
OMG!!! the car has arrived!! finally after all the procrastination and abuse he has put me through,I told him yesterday that don't speak to me until the car is here and he brought it to me.Well he did in fact did a great job! so lets give the man two thumbs up!!!!!
lovehurts.