Submitted by zobbie on 12/05/2015.
Hi
My husband is causing arguments in order to record them without my knowledge and definetly without my permission
We split up for 4 months and it would seem from what I'm piecing together he didn't have enough conclusive evidence to take the children (both autistic, whom do not like being with him on their own because of his lack of patience etc....
So he has since his return to the home been instigating arguments and dropping weird and wonderful in factual and some times downright lies in the midst...now on occasion I have responded (I'm the one who reacts to the heat of the moment person who at the etime fully means everything they say...However I am scared that if he plays his scripted arguments we will loose are girls...due to his paranoid behaviour...
At present focusing on xmas but if anyone had any ideas as it always seems it's me having to give in and be the adult....don't treat him like a child...
Advice please. ..
I have PTSD and 2 autistic girlie's and a husband who had a bang on the head and since then as months have turned into almost 2 years now has fill blown adhd....lost my soul mate and have a stobborn childish argumentative person who looks a lot like him but certainly where all resemblances end.....
UK so diagnosis but no help.for us the victims sorry family!!
Presently not responding to his plan but so terribly hard not to...
But this is like holding everybody's happiness in my hands and it's getting too much responsibility and I feel.so old....don't even have any fun as scared that he will do something that will spoil it like he used to...family don't seem to notice and neither do his friends but
His self medication has certainly gone up ......Any advice?
Borderline Behavior?
Submitted by kellyj on
I had a brief but very disturbing relationship with a woman who had Borderline Personalty Disorder and she did this very thing. Record conversations but seed them to use in the future for some apparent reason? It's paranoid delusions is what it is......believing something is happening that is not and then acting in some way to retaliate against their perceived delusions (which you are part of) and use the information later against you for self protection against you and personal gain for themselves??????????
Who knows? That's the scary part..... in my case....the end results were only bad on my end. Really bad!!! If you feel afraid yourself for no apparent reason (and you aren't delusional yourself but feel paranoid by your spouses actions..... it's a sign that something is wrong? I wouldn't let that pass and look into this further if I were you? For you own self protection!!!
There's a difference for example....if you were to say "I'm going to record you so you can hear what you sound like"...and then do this to have the person listen so they would see or hear how they sound by hearing it themselves. That might have some legitimate uses as a tool to initiate some change or benefit for everyone but....you would normally tell the other person you are doing it ahead of time even if you aren't telling them in the moment to get and unbiased response out them to record.
I can see a number of different scenarios where this might be useful if done properly.
Surreptitious entrapment from paranoid delusions is what this sound like to me? What does he plan to do with these recordings? Will they serve any purpose but to hold you accountable for things that you haven't done and make false accusations to further benefit him not you? I would be afraid myself if this is what he is doing?
Someone who loves you would never do such a thing.
J