So I'm new to this forum and from the posts I've begun reading, we are ALL experiencing the same issues, anger, frustration, no sex, it's all our fault.... The list goes on.
What I'm pondering is my DH wasn't like this PRIOR to taking the meds, so why do the meds bring out these behaviors? Why is he an asshole now when he never was to me before? Why am I not allowed to give my opinion or a suggestion without him taking it as unsolicited advice? Why do I have to ignore the hateful things that come out of his mouth now, and not take them personal? Why do I have to change EVERYTHING I normally do because his brain works different in the meds.
What i am really pondering is whether everyone is experiencing these same issues with their ADHD spouse if our spouses are all taking amphatemines? Or do ALL ADHD meds make our spouses be zombies, showing no feeling or emotion? We have been traveling home, 10 hours in the car, he's only touched my arm once! I got one hug and kiss this morning, only cause it's my birthday and he brought me flowers and a Balloon. I miss the old him!
Happy Birthday!
Submitted by Standing on
The right medication
Submitted by NLKohlenberger on
When someone is on the right medication, the overall impact is supposed to be positive. One's personality should not change in a completely negative direction in order to ease ADHD symptoms. The symptoms that should be impacted are focus, motivation, the ability to handle some of the distractibility, and there is often more energy, and to a degree (not always the case), there is an ability to complete tasks that may not have been so easily completed before. If aggressiveness or anger are side effects, then the individual may be on too much medication or the wrong medication.
Sometimes, a stimulant medication can be supplemented with another medication such as Wellbutrin (Bupropion in generic form) which will also soften some of the hard edges caused by some of the stimulant drugs. Mood disorders are common co-occurring issues with ADHD, and for example, anxiety may be heightened a bit with stimulant meds, and so something like Wellbutrin can really be helpful in taking the edge off.
If you find your partner has these side effects, and is open to suggestion, you might want to ask them to speak to their doctor about reviewing the dosage, or trying something else.