This is huge... After almost 6 years, 2 of marriage, I have finally decided in my heart that I need to leave. I'm leaning towards legal separation for now.. See if he changes MAYBE we will reconnect, but who knows. Anyways I am in a predicament. He knows I have wanted to leave for a while. But then I changed my mind and we went to counseling and I've stayed, now I have made my decision to be thoroughly done, though I won't be able to physically leave him until 6 months from now, until I finish my accounting degree.. Do I tell him my feelings now and then it might be wierd between us for the next 6 months, or pretend everything is ok until I'm done with school and can move away?
Also as I sit and type this I am thinking about me telling him I'm going to leave, and I kind of feel sorry and bad for him.... WHY???!!! Ugh the manipulator that he is will make me feel like a horrible person for leaving.... Please tell me it's ok to leave, I've been through enough and I can't take it anymore!!
It's okay for you to leave.
Submitted by PoisonIvy on
It's okay for you to leave. And if he knows that you might leave, I'd wait to tell him until you actually file for separation.
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Submitted by overwhelmedwife on
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, though I won't be able to physically leave him until 6 months from now, until I finish my accounting degree.. Do I tell him my feelings now and then it might be wierd between us for the next 6 months, or pretend everything is ok until I'm done with school and can move away?
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Don't tell him now. He may either intentionally or unintentionally cause problems for you while you try to finish your degree as a way to stop you from moving on.
Plus, as you mention, it would make things weird for you all while you're there.