Submitted by PoisonIvy on 10/08/2020.
Hi, friends. This forum has been a great support over the years. You might recall that my ex (we've been divorced for four years) is in the "likes to do things himself, doesn't want to spend money" camp. I'm dealing with one of the results of this today. I'm finally getting the gutters replaced on the house, which I got in the divorce. The gutters are in terrible shape (not just my opinion; I heard one of the workers say this), and the project will cost about $6,500. Ouch! This has revived my anger at my ex a little bit, but so far, I'm doing relatively well all things considered. Wish me luck!
SIGH.
Submitted by AdeleS6845 on
Sounds like my ex husband.
Back when my son and daughter were little, I was a stay-at-home parent for about 8 years. I was driving around in an older SUV with a bad transmission. It was up to me to transport the children to and from school, doctors appointments Etc.
I took the car in to a local shop to have them look at it. They told me that the transmission was going and it wouldn't be long before it would need to be replaced. Because a new transmission costs thousands of dollars, even for a rebuilt one, I told him I would have to check with my husband. The owner of the shop offered to do a transmission flush in order to make it okay to drive for a little while. When I told my husband what the mechanic said, he told me the mechanic was just trying to rip me off.
He refused to spend the money to get it fixed properly, and didn't want another car payment. (Never mind the fact that he never drove the vehicle and had no idea how bad it was.)
So, I did the best I could. I had no money of my own, and he controlled the bank accounts.
Almost one year to the day the transmission started giving out. When I went to my husband about it he took the keys from me and wanted to drive it himself. After coming back in he looked at me with disgust, and said "This is not good!" He was pissed off at me that he was going to have to spend money on a new vehicle. I didn't bother pointing out to him what the mechanic said about the transmission failing.
There were many incidences besides this of him not wanting to spend the money. In some cases I can understand it but when you're dealing with an unreliable car and not being able to transport your children or risking being stuck in the middle of nowhere I just couldn't wrap my mind around it.
Hi PoisonIvy....
Submitted by c ur self on
Some times it just makes sense to get two quotes from reputable business's....But as long as you are comfortable with the quote....Good Luck!
c
Ouch, indeed
Submitted by Brindle on
Yikes, what a price tag. I'm glad you are going to have new gutters that will better serve your house soon. I hope it makes you feel good every time you look at them.
Good job on not getting taken over by anger! I mean, I know you said you're having some anger, but it sounds like you're managing it. That's not a small thing. Bravo!