My DH has been unemployed for most of our marriage (going on 23 years). He has been "house dad" for the last three years, does most of the meals, cleans up the kitchen, and takes the garbage out. He is supposed to be cleaning out the storages and the bottom half of the house of his stuff, but that's a whole 'nother ball of wax.
Currently, he is running for city council. He is well known in our little town because he literally has never met someone he can't talk to (many of you can relate to that!). He has been busy with this for months; spends hours every day going to coffee dates, planning meetings, talking to all his fellow council buddies, etc. It is literally a full-time job, albeit unpaid.
Today he just got home from a two hour coffee date with a buddy. He's super excited about all of this and how his campaign is going.
He has never, EVER, been this focused on supporting his family. It's hard for me to get excited about this, yet I know he wants my support.
I just think it's interesting that he's definitely focused; just depends on what you ask him to focus ON.
Do you worry what might
Submitted by copingSAH on
Do you worry what might happen once the hyper-focus is over and city council is just another demand on him?
I'm wondering when my dh's hyper-focus is going to end. He's obsessed with a shed project. It took a long time to get him into it, then you couldn't stop him. He's spent a lot of money on equipment and mowing all hours of the night. He's also been trying to remove tree stumps with nothing more than a small hacksaw (I know you need a grinder for this job). Then he'll tell the same story of his shed project over and over to any stranger who will listen to him. I don't understand this part at all, I know the stranger is hearing it for the first time so they're going to be tuned into him. But for him, he could repeat the same story upwards of 20, 30 times and it's always the same delivery, same newness, same intensity. He won't spend time playing with the kids outside tho. It's just him going a mile a minute on other things. My concern is, the kitchen sink is broken, and two of the cabinet drawers are destroyed but he's not even thinking about it -- all because I asked to get it fixed -- and he will not fix it because just hearing me ask pisses him off too much.
So yeah I know how you feel, it's hard for me to be excited about the outdoor projects when the most important room inside the house is falling apart.
many broken things
Submitted by dedelight4 on
Yes.I know this also. There are so many broken things in our house as well, not getting fixed. And our house is only 10 years old. My husband broke most of them, as he breaks most of the things we have. But, heaven forbid that one of US should break something. We never hear the end of it. When he DOES fix something, its usually not done the right way, and its crooked or needs redone by a professional.
Its exhausting tryIng to get them to understand that they dont know everythIng about everything. Hes been fixiNg some things outside but its slow going. He loses focus so fast, and it gets too borIng. BUT, leT it be something NEW, and he will plaY fOr hours with it. STill not get it done, but it gets big time focus.
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